A few months ago Gabriel Reese said in an interview that she is submissive to her husband. The media was all over it. In the last few days Candace Cameron has said the same and the comments to articles about her as so typical of this world.
Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife even as Christ is the head of the church, his body, and is himself its Savior. Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit in everything to their husbands. Ephesians 5 22-24
The Bible makes it pretty clear. The chain of command is God… then Christ… then the husband… and then the wife. So many people misunderstand what this means, and frankly I think many do it on purpose. They want to paint a picture of the woman as some sort of slave. They want to make the woman a doormat. Nothing could be further than the truth! It means that you discuss the issue and ultimately the man should be praying about it along with the wife and then he makes the decision based on what is best for the family as a whole. Ultimately the man is the one that answers to God for this not the wife. If a woman truly loves her husband she will not make things harder on him by pouting or fighting, or competing with him.
Women have decided, then raised girls to believe that they are the same, or BETTER than men. So being submissive to a man is insulting to them. They have basically told men they are not needed. The thing is that women are as good as men, but they are DIFFERENT than men. They are physically different on many levels. Many of the things that make us women are looked down on by the modern woman. The all-consuming love of your children and the way you want to nurture them, the way that we feel the need to make a home, the way we want a peaceful home. God intended women to be partner of men and thus to fit like a puzzle… each one having what the other does not.
God is also clear on the man’s part in this.
Likewise, husbands, live with your wives in an understanding way, showing honor to the woman as the weaker vessel, since they are heirs with you of the grace of life, so that your prayers may not be hindered. 1 Peter 3:7
The husband is supposed to honor you, that means to treat you right! To listen to you. It says that if a husband does not that it will stand in the way of a full and clear praying relationship with God. Now back to the first verse I shared, the chain of command… if the husband doesn’t treat the wife in the way he should the he answers to God. There is a burden there.
Now for this to work in the way God intends the wife has to submit, but the husband must set aside his selfish self and do the best thing. Both partners must do their part, sadly it seems that it doesn’t happen often. I think that few women have seen it in action in a way that it works, so they get the idea that it is slavery for women. I am so glad when I look at my daughter’s marriage that she learned something along the way.
I was once one of the scoffers. I was 16 and dating Bill. Bill’s mother was very controlling and her best friend taught my Sunday night class at church. She would make it personal … Gina you will have to SUBMIT to Bill and do what he tells you and when and why and how…. on and on. As you can imagine that went over like a ton of bricks. I have learned a lot in the nearly 29 years we have been married. I learned there is power in meekness, there is a power in serving, there is power in standing back and watching Bill be the man God intends. Bill seeks God’s word and God’s will. He makes the decisions after we talk about them, because he wants to be in God’s will. If you strive to be the woman God, wants the husband will want to protect you, and treat you like treasure. He will cherish you.
It is sad to see what the world thinks. It is sad to see the world rip apart Christians. This is the reason that God says
If you were of the world, the world would love you as its own; but because you are not of the world, but I chose you out of the world, therefore the world hates you. John 15:19
In the grand scheme of things, count it as good if the world despises you.